Dear Grace

Yes we do have a store in Melbourne, go an check it out. It is at the city end of Bridge Rd, near the corner with Punt Rd. the staff are very helpful and friendly.

Hi Ray,

Thanks for your question. If you're referring to the DPS page that you're taken to from checkout in order to make credit card payment, then Customer ID is not required. The only sections you need to fill in are credit card number, expiry date, your card name, and your card security code.

As you will have filled in your other details on the checkout page (email address, name, phone number, postal address etc)., then the payment is matched to your order using the Cart ID.

I hope this helps!

Hello Happy Couple!

It's great to read that you're both enjoying using your We Vibe 2, with its many speeds and pulsating options - and it's also great that you're using  water-based lubricant so that the toy sits comfortably. That said, it does sound like this slippage is causing some challenges for you.

There are a few reasons that this may be occurring. One may be that the shaft of the penis is relatively narrow (or the shape of your vagina is comparatively wide), leaving room vaginally for the penis to slip up next to the We Vibe. Everyone's shape is unique, and often this means that people don't mesh like puzzle pieces. If this if the case, it may mean that there's no longer the pressure of the penis shaft against the underside of the We Vibe, so it won't be pressing as firmly against the g spot.

The other possibility is that the vaginal muscles are not as strong as they could be, and the We Vibe itself is slipping down to nestle against the penis.

To determine if it's to do with penis and/or vagina shape, try using a wider dildo for penetration whilst using the We Vibe. This can be experimented with solo to figure out what works for you, or your partner can still be involved in this by controlling the movement of the dildo. For the vaginal muscles - and this is recommended regardless - start using Smart Balls to strengthen your pelvic floor. This will give you better control over clenching and releasing your muscles, and a better ability to hold the vibrator in place.

Using a condom on the penis may also help, as this provides a smoother entry - it's possible that friction of the penis against the We Vibe is not helping things along!

Another great resource is the book Ride 'Em Cowgirl - this covers a variety of different positions you can use during lovemaking. Trying different positions is recommended with any couples toy, to ensure that you find the position that gives the most pleasure for both of you.

And, of course, be sure to check out the D.VICE Advice radio show - the 21/11 edition discusses how to use your We Vibe to provide maximum pleasure.

Best of luck!

Dear Jane,

How exciting, anal sex can be very pleasurable and self discovery can really help make playing with a partner more enjoyable. A silicone buttplug is a great place to start and Jewel is the most popular in the range as it offers the extra sensation with the bumps and is a great size. Silicone is easy to clean and long lasting.

Definately use plenty of lubricant - LubeXXX is really great for anal play and compatible with silicone toys.

If you decide either now or later on that you would like a vibrating option, Billy has been designed for anal play, has a range of pulsating and vibrating modes...to give a range of sensations, as is rechargeable so has plenty of power.

If you find that you are getting muscle spasm, often occurs when larger opjects such as a penis or dildo are inserted anally, then try Innuendo as this is a natural muscle relaxant that can effectively make anal sex more comfortable.

We have some great radio shows on anal sex that you can download for free as a podcast at D.VICE Advice, good info at SEX INFO and for additional information try the Expert Guide to Anal Sex DVD ...real people having real anal sex with an instructor talking you through different positions and techniques for having really pleasurable anal sex.

Have a great time on you journey of anal self discovery.

Hi Mary,

Sounds like you're keen to explore, and you'd like your boyfriend to explore with you - which is great! Before jumping straight to the strap-ons, though, it'd be a good idea to communicate with your partner about what you are thinking. Has he expressed any interest previously about playing anally or teasing his prostate? Have you previously expressed your interest to him? If you want to bring the notion up gently, you can always read some erotica together that includes anal play. ‘Luscious’ is a collection of erotica featuring anal play and it’s hot!

Talking about the fantasies you've been having may be a good idea too. See how he reacts. If it’s a totally new idea to him make sure you proceed gently and allow him time to get used to the idea.

There are some great resources available at D.VICE. Be sure to check out The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, which is an excellent starting point if he is curious; The Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex, which is designed to guide heterosexual couples through the process of introducing strap-on play to their lovemaking; and the very informative, educational and hot DVD The Expert Guide to Anal Sex. Remember that most guys are visually stimulated, so watching a DVD together showing both women and men enjoying anal play might well hook him in to wants to try it for himself.

If he is into the idea, start gently with a silicone butt-plug and a lot of lubricant! The Bootie is a great choice, petite and shaped to reach the prostate – alternatively the Gem would be a good option. LubeXXX is our most popular lube for anal play - it’s super slippery and long lasting. He may want to try these solo, or together with you. And be sure to remember how much fun stimulating his prostate can be! You can of course use these anal toys too, and if you are keen to experiment he may be more open to exploring anal adventures.

If he seems really keen, the Nexus prostate massagers are very effective and fantastic for men during solo play or with their partner.

When the two of you feel he is ready to experience being pleasured while you are wearing a strap-on, you need to make sure you have the tools for the job. The Groover leather harness is sexy and comfortable, or you may opt for the versatile comfort of the neoprene Beachcomber.  For a dildo, a good place to start is with a Siren or Babe. You want to make sure you ease him into strap-on pleasure – you can always upsize later if need be... and last but not least check out the Share XS designed specifically for a women to wear and pleasure her man anally.

Be sure to check out the D.VICE Advice radio show on Anal Play (26/06/10) so you are armed with factual info about anal play and tips for technique too!

Dear mrnwa,

At D.VICE we are not qualified in terms of medical advice. However, we have done quite a lot of research in relation to your question and consulted various practitioners as to what could be the cause of your problem, as well as possible treatment options for you.

What you describe are the symptoms of your body showing a form of major depletion, and for you this occurs after the exertion of sexual activity. On an energy level when a man is aroused and experiences orgasm it expends a good amount of your body’s chi (vital energy force). Additionally, many changes occur hormonally, and some of your symptoms such as the acne is likely to be related to this. Whilst your testosterone levels may be low, it is important to look at increasing your body’s resilience holistically so that you do not become depleted with sexual excursion.

When we consulted with an acupuncturist and traditional Chinese medicine practitioner about your condition, they suggested they were aware of this condition and advised it was totally treatable. Another alternative practitioner whom we consulted (a naturopath) had also come across this condition before and advised it could be treated -so there may be some options available to you in the alternative health field. The supplements that are commonly recommended to enhance men’s reproductive health are zinc and fish oils, so these may be an option for you to consider.

In terms of increasing your testosterone levels the new herbal supplement Escalator is a formula designed to enhance men's natural stamina. This combination of herbs increases the testosterone levels, so may be helpful for you. You may also want to make sure you are not feeling depleted prior to sexual activity. Take the time to eat well, hydrate yourself – and treat it as if you are about to compete in an extremely physical sport. Ensure you are not tired and also allow yourself time to recuperate and replenish your system.

Another option we recommend is the very popular title ‘The Multi Orgasmic Man'. In this book the author gives techniques where men can learn to orgasm without ejaculation. This has been practiced within Asian cultures for centuries as it is believed that through ejaculating a man loses a concentrated amount of his chi. We have had great feedback about this book so would be well worth checking out.

Whilst it is obviously very frustrating to become so depleted after sex, seeing this as an opportunity to enhance your overall health as well as your sexual enjoyment will hopefully provide a silver lining for you.

Good luck!

Hi whataboutdre

Thank you for your email. Can I interpret that you find you have no libido at the moment? This is a common issue for both men and women. Our sex drive can be affected by stress, tiredness, medication, diet, depression, aging and lack of fitness...basically many things.

For men once you reach 30 your testosterone levels may drop and this can really kick in at age 40.

Whilst it may no cause you any health issues not ejaculating regularly, there is evidence to suggest that regular prostate massage can reduce inflammation of the prostate prevent problems in later life. Sex can produce a sense of well being and produces of feel good chemicals in the body, all good for your overall wellbeing.

Fortunately there are some excellent natural products on the market that can effectively treat lowered libido, boost testosterone levels and give you that zest for sex. als there are a range of sex toys for men that are useful to get you back in the groove of regular sex. Sex begats sex.

I would recommend Escalator to take regularly as a testosterone booster and VigraHD as to trigger your desire and EDOil is a massaged into the penis daily to improve blood flow to the penis, triggering a repsonse in the brain as well. Masturbators can be good fun if you are on your own...feel better than a hand job and the Cobra is an interesting toy for vibrating the head of the penis.

Of course have a sexual partner/s to stimulate your interest will also help, however the herbals products are a good place to start to get you body back to wanting sex.

It ain't over for you yet.

Hi longer penis

To start with I would just like to say, that if you are a heterosexual guy, most women are much more interested in what a guy can do with his penis, tongue, fingers etc, than the size of it. The average penis size is 5" to 7" so you may already be longer than most.

Penis pumps are effective over the time that you use them as they increase bloodflow to the penis. Once you stop using it your penis will return to it's former size, it is a bit like working out at the gym, while you keep up pumping iron your biceps will get bigger, when you stop they will revert to their former size.

The great thing about the penis pumps is that they feel good too. You can use it daily or a few days each week, ideally NOT just before you have sex as they can make the penis a bit sensitive. You erections should be firmer as well.

Other great products for improving bloodlflow to the penis are the herbal libido products VigraHD and Escalator in NZ or Sustain in Australia(this is great to take before working out as well) and The Fleshlight Stamina Training Kit is great for building up your sexual stamina so you can go longer and harder.

Hi GSpotter,

It's great that you've found your g-spot and are able to orgasm with it - but it definitely sounds like you want something more! Orgasms feel different for everyone, and while for many women the differences between clitoral and vaginal (g-spot) orgasms are noticeable, it's not guaranteed. It's possible that you've continued to have clitoral orgasms, which is why you're not seeing a great difference at this stage.

That said, the big difference for many women when it comes to having a g-spot orgasm is that they're able to ejaculate. And that's definitely something more, or at least different to the clitoral orgasm!  Female ejaculate comes from small glands located on either side of the urethra (they're called the paraurethral or skenes glands). This has a very similar make-up to semen (without the sperm), and is definitely not urine.

Whilst we often recommend combining clitoral and g-spot stimulation, perhaps this is a good time to focus on just stimulating the g-spot and ignoring the clitoris for the time-being. This stimulation can be more intense, and often the orgasmic sensation can be less clear-cut.  Hence, it can take some experimentation to figure out the stimulation that makes your g-spot feel happy, orgasm, and squirt.

There are a variety of toys that are awesome to try out. The Serpentine is an amazing light-weight toy that's fun to press, rub, and tease your g-spot with, while the Delight is a rechargeable vibrator designed to vibrate or pulsate up against your g-spot. There's also the Lelo Gigi, another gorgeous rechargeable vibrator, and the We-Vibe, which stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot and is amazing to wear with a partner.

Emptying your bladder prior to stimulating your g-spot can be helpful as well - often prior to a g-spot orgasm is can feel like you need to pee (as the same muscles are used), and knowing that your bladder is empty means you don't need to fret about urinating. Alternatively, you can experiment in the shower, where it doesn't matter if you ultimately pee or ejaculate - any mess is washed away!

Whether stimulating your g-spot with a toy or with your fingers, lubricant is a must. Yes is a lovely thick organic water-based lubricant, and Probe comes in both a thick and a thin water-based option.

There's some great media out there to help as well.  Be sure to check out the Expert Guide to the G-spot DVD, and definitely have a listen to the D.VICE Advice radio show - the 03/07/10 and 30/06/07 editions both focus on g-spot pleasure.

Best of luck!

Hi Jess,

The great thing about high-quality toys is they last a long time, particularly if they are made out of 100% silicone. While we definitely recommend that you upgrade your toys, it’s also good to keep your collection growing. It can be a lot of fun and quite nostalgic go back and use toys you’ve used previously. If you have a vibrating toy no longer vibrates, it can be used as a dildo. And if you have a toy where you're not sure of the material quality, it can still be used if you put a condom on it each time.

In terms of disposing of old and worn-out sex toys, it's unfortunate that New Zealand doesn’t a sex-toy recycling programme (although some other countries do). This means that they have to go out in the rubbish.  If you do have to throw one out, ensure that if it's a battery-operated toy that you have removed the batteries for disposal at the next e-day. And don't forget that your glass toys can go out in the recycling (or be used as an ornament!). Alas, those silicone and plastic toys will end up in a landfill.

Don't forget to check out the D.VICE Advice radio show - the 13/03/10 show discusses sex toy materials, and how to be keep your toys clean and happy so they last longer!

Hi charlie,

It's great that you've got yourself a harness - they're so much fun! When it comes to getting a dildo that's suits, however, it sounds like you've been having a challenging time.

If you're not in an area where you can visit one of our stores, or attend one of our parties, it can be challenging to figure out just how firm a dildo is by looking at it online. If you are in one of those areas, then pop in and check them out!

That said, the dildos we manufacture ourselves (here and here) are made from 100% silicone. They're solid, made from a dipped mould that has no seams or flaws, and are nice and heavy to hold. If you're gripping them, you can squeeze quite firmly (harder than you would a penis) - they have a little give, but not much. They certainly don't flop around!
 
The wider the girth of the dildo the firmer the silicone as well. For example Giantess, Sire and Boss are wider and firmer.

All measurements of the dildos listed online. Grab a ruler to get some idea. Be aware measurements listed are useable length, so will be slightly shorter if in a harness.

Additionally, all of our D.VICE manufactured dildos have a flared base, which sits beneath the O ring of the harness, holding it firmly in place. And they come with a 10 year guarantee as well!

If you're relatively new to strap-on play, or want some extra useful information, make sure you get a copy of the Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-On Sex. And be sure to check out the D.VICE Advice radio show, especially the 25/07/09 show where Ema dicusses strap-on pleasure for couples, and gives the dildo 101.

Have fun!

Hi Sara,

Your question wasn’t very detailed, so I’m not sure if this is a new issue for you, or one specific to this particular partner. It does sound like you were being able to be turned on previously, and that this has now faded, so here are some thoughts.

Sex drive (or libido) can definitely go through ups and downs. Changing medication, life events causing stress, the contraceptive pill, and aging can all have an impact. While it's not often talked about, many women go through this at various times, and it can be distressing. Familiarity in relationships over time, can be more challenging to excite each other sexually.  Issues unrelated to sexual relationship can also impact (resentment etc).

Rest assured - it does return! But all couples do have to work at their sexual relationship. Doesn’t have to be static – both need to put energy in to be exciting, and to learn together and communicate.

You can help it along the way, though. Purr Gel is an excellent way of increasing clitoral sensitivity and we recommend it for everyone. Lavigra may also assist, and is very easy to take.

When it comes to toys, there are some great ones to choose from! Clitoral stimulation tends to be most effective for many women - check out the Lily, Laya Spot and the Slick Bullet for clit-specific toys. They all provide lovely vibrations and adjustable speeds.

There are toys that you can insert vaginally or use on the clit, such as the Angelo or the Gigi - these give you the freedom to use the toy as appeals to you at the time.

And then there's the toys that do both, such as the Ina and the Serenity. These provide vibrations both internally and on the clitoris at the same time, and can be amazing!

Be sure to check out the D.VICE Advice Radio show, especially the 17/10/09 and 25/10/09 episodes which are all about libido.

It will come back - let's help it out for you. And good luck!

Hi D
Anal beads are great fun,, and if you are already enjoying anal sex I would recommend eiher the BendyBeads (firmer) or the Joy Plug (softer). there are also some great anal vibrators that can add to the sensation and are safe to use.

Both men and women have a lot of nerve endings anally and anal sex can be really very pleasurable. We do recommend using a lot of lubricant with your anal toy to ensure you have a comfortable and enjoyable experience.

If you want to find out more about anal play you can tune in to D.VICE Advice or read up at SEX INFO and there are some good instructional DVD's, for women Expert Guide to Anal Sex and for men Expert Guide to Fellatio - it includes male anal pleasuring. These are real people having real anal sex with an instructor guiding them, they're hot!

Dear Gem

Penis pumps generally function in a similar way. By creating a vacuum, they force the blood through the penis, which helps improve blood flow during the time you use it. so any style should work reasonably well provided you can creat a seal at the base of the pump.

With customers who have had prostate surgery, we often find it takes some trial and error to find a solution that works for each individual. Using the pump may certainly be worthwhile, and I recommend starting with a pump for $100 or under and if you get a good result you may choose to invest in a more expensive model further down the track.

Use the pump for short periods of time and build up the length of time you use it.

Other products that may be worth trying in conjunction with the penis pump are an adjustable cock ring and a herbal performance enhancer  or EdOil that improves bloodflow as well.

Again it is worth trying combinations to see what works best for you. 

Dear Bells

Great to hear you have had a sucessful experience with the SmartBalls. It is fine to wear them as often as you wish, however you can simply wear them for a day once a week or fortnight for maintenance if you wish, now that you have good muscle tone.

We do recommend that women move on to the SmartBalls Original to get an extra boost to your pelvic floor muscles. They are a but bigger and take a bit of getting used to, you will get a significantly greater PC workout using them.
Again we recommend 3-4 weeks of daily use , then one day every 2 weeks or so to keep the muscles in tip top shape.

There is no harm in using the SmartBalls regularly, although like any exercise there may be a plateauing effect, ie your muscles won't get any stronger unless you vary the weight of the balls.