LOL! It would be kinda weird for me to tell you how to go about starting this business when it's exactly the business that we are in! All I can tell you is that people think it's about making a quick buck - but if you go about it this way you will not be successful. Good luck.

Bono we have a fabulous book called The Multi Orgasmic Man that I think you would benefit from reading. The technique information in this book is easy to understand and simple to implement.

Regarding the S&M desires that you and perhaps your wife have, there are many different levels that you can play at. If you want to introduce some gentle loving techniques, you probably don't even need to use the term S&M. Initial activities might include spanking, cuffing your (or your wife's) hands to the bedhead, or playacting a scene that you have discussed together. Communication in all things sexual is really the key!

I'm thinking that perhaps you're having some difficulty maintaining sufficient blood in your penis in this position, which will result in a loss of erection. I would recommend using a cockring to give you that little bit of extra assistance. There are a whole bunch of different types available, and they suit a range of people's tastes. Why not try something gentle like a Condom Cockring and see whether this is effective?

I don't think there is any one answer to your question. The deal with vibrators is that they are just pleasurable to use. A lot of women use them to stimulate their clitoris only. A lot use it for internal stimulation. The trick is to experiment, listen to your body, and work out what feels good to you. Try it out and have a play!

This sounds like a classic case of compatible on the streets, but want different things in the sheets!

It sounds to me as if you've thought this through very thoroughly. Have you spoken to him about it in any depth outside of the bedroom? This would be my strongest suggestion. There's nothing worse than not having the same turn-ons as your lover/partner, and I'm feeling for you. Basically, I think that this level of incompatibility, combined with not speaking about these feelings, is a recipe for absolute disaster. If he is definitely resistant to the types of activities that you want to indulge in, I see severely limited options at this stage.

(a) You sacrifice your sexual freedom/satisfaction in order to keep your husband happy.
(b) You sneak away and "play" with a partner who will give you the sex that you desire, thereby cheating on hubby.
(c) You negotiate an open relationship.
(d) After your discussion/s your husband realises that he could lose the woman of his dreams, reads the book, realises his ideas about SM are unfounded and ill-conceived, and you both end up having years of dirty, raunchy, fun sex.

I personally would not go near products like this unless I knew what the ingredients were, that they were natural and that they had been tested by real people and found to be effective.

The absolute best product that I know of to prevent premature ejaculation is a cockring. There are a whole bunch to choose from, they're cheap, effective and completely natural. They work wonders. If you combine this with the use of a very good lubricant, you are likely to reduce friction and stimulation, and therefore slow things down even more. A product like Virilina might also be effective.

It's all a matter of opinion - it depends entirely on how much you have to spend, the dimensions you're after and what "attracts" you to certain products. All of the products on our site are excellent and we recommend them. Perhaps you should take a look at the product reviews to see how our customers rate them?

A very common misconception in the world is that if you think it, you may as well have done it. I'm a great believer in fantasy adding to the sexual experience. And pretty much, anything goes as long as it stays in your head! It is remarkably common for people to fantasize about unattractive (to them) sexual partners and even rape or coercion. This does not mean that these same people want to have sex with unattractive people, or to be actually forced into sex. I think you should accept your fantasy, and start to discuss the whole fantasy concept with your gf. Fantasies are fun, and nothing to be ashamed or worried about. In fact, it's when people take them too seriously that problems can occur.

You have not cheated on your gf, and you might be surprised about what she fantasizes about. But the same in reverse applies - you have no rights to judge her fantasies. Best just to accept them and get as much of your own fun out of them that you can ;-)

LOL - you certainly are keeping me on my toes.

No, you're not bad at applying techniques. Sex and chemistry is something that happens between two (or more) people, and often-times we get better at it as we go along with experience. Reading your girlfriend is an important thing for you to do. Listen to her words, watch her body, listen to her breathing.

She sounds like she is one of the lucky but unlucky women of the world. There is a certain type of woman who is incredibly responsive. She feels everything. She is very sexual and loves all sorts of stimulation. Often-times these same women have more difficulty orgasming. I guess they have overload from the overstimulation. So they are lucky to feel so much sensation from their sexual adventures, but the difficulty lies in finding release.

Sometimes a very good way of working with this is to REALLY slow things down and simplify everything. She might not like masturbating, but one of the great things about this is that she is likely to take things very slowly and be very repetitive. If she doesn't want to do this herself, put yourself in her shoes (or whatever turns you on ;-)) and do this for her. Very slow, very gentle oral sex is often a good way to start - and just do this for as long as it takes for her to relax into an orgasm.

Ironically what often happens is that when these women do orgasm from the gentle, rhythmic stroking that they can relax to, they find that they really do enjoy the rumpy pumpy action of high energy sex. Still, best to know these things huh?

Good luck with your continuing adventures.

It is not surprising that you have "lost" faith in yourself. You've even nicknamed yourself "lost". I suspect that you feel that something in your relationship is no longer there? You have certainly made the connection between your husband's infidelity and your current difficulty having sex.

I could direct you to a number of books, and to our Sex Info section for information about techniques and ways of seducing yourself and your husband. But I'm not convinced that this issue you face is about technique.

Perhaps it is about communication? Perhaps you feel inadequate? Perhaps you buried your feelings around your husband's betrayal in order to keep the family unit or to keep your relationship? Perhaps you are still sad and angry about this? Perhaps you actually need to speak to a trained counsellor so that you can sort out your feelings around this whole thing? Anyone who goes through that type of betrayal (why is it ALWAYS the best friend?!) is going to face issues in their relationship - or in their next relationship - if they are not dealt with properly.

Good luck on your journey - I feel for you. Come back see me when you're through the head stuff and ready again for a good old fashioned rogering.

We have an excellent new product called the G Wand that is a hard surface, multi-speed and waterproof vibrator. It has a good length for ease of use and a perfect egg-shaped G-Spot stimulating head. I reckon this one will hit the "spot" nicely ;-)

Thank you :-)

Hmmm, if you're an adventurous type I would recommend any of the Boys, and particularly the Boss. These can be used in a harness or by hand, have a nice curve on them, and the textured surface is fantastic for anal sex. If you're feeling less adventurous, the G Wand is a good alternative providing you keep most of the toy outside the body while you are using it.

There is so much pressure on people to Orgasm in our society - sometimes I wonder if this doesn't actually ruin our ability to just relax and let nature, desire and stimulation take its course.

You need to relax a little around this issue. I can see that you're concerned and het up about it all, but she will feel that intense need that you have, and even if she does want to orgasm, it will interfere with you both. Not to mention the pressure on such a budding young sex life! Being that all over the place so early on will mean that she won't be able to trust your techniques or her experience - maybe you will change what you are doing just when she is starting to pre-orgasm?

Relax. Then relax some more. Read our Sex Info section and think about how you can start to incorporate a couple of techniques into what you do. Do only one or two different things at a time, and give you both a chance to experience what is happening. If you give yourself some consistent space you will more easily be able to assess what is happening and what is working. Definitely encourage her to masturbate. And enjoy yourself while you watch ;-). Remember, take things slow, explore, communicate clearly, get to know her outside the sack, and RELAX.

I think the best value buy at the moment is the Pink Pearly. It's just so versatile - and a fabulous price. Thanks for your feedback - we think our customers are truly awesome too!

Our Australian site has one plug-in vibrator. We occassionally get requests for these but internationally they are very difficult to get hold of. I know that the Hitachi Wand is very popular in the States - this is essentially a massager (no, I mean a REAL massager) that is used as a sex toy. We are unlikely to get any in the near or medium future.