Sex Info. Choosing the right vibrator to suit your needs - for both women and men

Choosing a Vibrator

There is so much variety and a huge range to choose from when it comes to vibrators. Vibrators can be used by both men and women and can be used solo or with a partner.
You can use them for external stimulation on the nipples, the perineum, the penis, the scrotum, the clitoris or any other area of the body that you find erotic.
You can use vibrators for penetration vaginally as well as others which are specifically designed for anal play.

How to choose

There are a huge range of vibrators available and it can be daunting finding the perfect vibe for you. It’s a good idea to find out what kind of sensation or stimulation you would actually like.

Here are some questions to ask of your self to help you make the right decision.

• Do you want to use it by yourself or and with a partner?
• Do you want to a toy or external stimulation or penetration or both?
• Would you like to use it for g-spot stimulation?
• Would you like to use it for clitoral stimulation during penetration with your partner?
• Do you want to use it for anal play? 
  
  Have a think about these questions, of course some people say well they have no idea as they have never used a vibrator before, so it is good to think about how you like to be sexually stimulated either by yourself or a partner or what you fantasize about.
  
  

  Important things to consider when choosing a vibrator

•  Strength of vibration. The majority of vibrators are multi speed which meas that they have a slow setting of vibration then they will go up to sort of ‘full steam ahead’. 
• There is also multi speed and dual function where the vibrator will pulsate and escalate different types of vibration where the vibration goes on and off automatically.
• Do you prefer a soft or hard surface? You have your standard kind of vibrator which is a hard plastic and then you have a vibrator which has a softer surface and more flexible which can be more comfortable for use internally.
• Vibrators are made of a whole multitude of different kinds of material. Quality vibrators are predominantly made from skin friendly silicone, some cheaper vibrators are made from latex,  it’s important to know if you have a latex allergy.
• Straight or curved shape, compact or with plenty of girth, rotating shaft or thrusting - while it may all seem overwhelming, we recommend you have a small quality selection of vibrators so you can try different styles for different activities and moods.
• The contemporary vibrator is made from quality materials, is low noise, powerful if you need it to be and often will have a remote control or easy to use buttons for changing intensity

Tips for using a vibrator

We recommend  putting some time aside to get to know your vibrator. I always encourage women to masturbate, to actually put time aside for self pleasure because the more you get to know yourself sexually, the more you enhance your libido and the more you can actually communicate that to your partner and have a much more fulfilling sex life. It is important to develop some vibrator expertise yourself before you communicate that with your partner if you intend to play with someone else.

Experiment on different parts of your body, vary the speed, the pressure and try different positions for different kinds of sensations, such as on your back, standing or on all fours.
Always use lubricant with your sex toy for greater pleasure and sensation and I definitely recommend water-based lubricant for vaginal use which is really natural.
At D.VICE we stock a  hypoallergenic lubricant called Probe which is a really natural feel lubricant or you can use a silicone and water mix like LubeXXX (compatible with silicone sex toys).

If you are going to be using a vibrator on the clitoris, it’s a good idea to use it on a low setting first. Start on the labia and clitoral hood as the clitoris is very sensitive and contains over 8000 nerve endings, you may find that full speed vibration directly on the clitoris is too intense.
If it is too intense then you can actually put fabric, like a towel or something between the vibrator and your skin.
Experiment with different kinds of internal stimulation and g-spot stimulation and if your vibe has a flared base you can pop a condom on it and experiment with anal stimulation as well.

When using a vibrator with a partner remember to communicate with them so they know how you want them to use it on you for greater pleasure.

Gone are the day that vibrators were only for women and men can actually add a vibrator into their own self pleasure regime as well. Often guys enjoy using a vibrator on the perineum, which is the skin between the anus and the balls, and some guys like direct prostate stimulation with a vibrating prostate massager or vibrating butt plug.
Some men enjoy stimulation on he head of their penis as well. We also have guybrators which are designed for male masturbation  and can be used with a partner as part of foreplay.
There are many styles of vibrating cock rings that stimulate the shaft and testicles and stimulate your partner during penetrative sex.

Vibrators are not a requirement to a satisfying sex life, they make a great additional and can stimulate us in ways that no person could. We recommend you try a quality vibrator to ensure you have maximum pleasure.