D.VICE Sex Q & A. Am I being replaced by a Rabbit vibrator?

Question

Boyfriend asks; My girlfriend recently purchased her first Rabbit type vibrator and had her first orgasm. Now it feels like I have been replaced and am not a good lover as she is unable to orgasm during sex. What do I do?

D.VICE Sexpert Replies;

It’s really important to know that if you introduce a vibrator into your love making, it’s not replacing you, what it is actually doing is enhancing and adding another aspect to your love making. The great thing about your girlfriend purchasing a vibrator in general is that’s new a step for her, and an empowering thing for her to do. How fantastic that she’s had her first orgasm!

Try to let go of feeling like you are responsible for her being able to orgasm and celebrate the fact she has been able to achieve that. It’s a  huge step in her sexual discovery of herself and as her partner, you can actually celebrate that with her.

Now that she has had her first orgasm with a vibrator, this could have a significant and positive effect on your ongoing sexual relationship.
The great thing about vibrators is that you can learn about how she likes to be stimulated and you can empower yourself, as a lover and add that to your sexual repertoire.

The majority of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone and intercourse does not directly stimulate the clitoris which over 86% of women require in order to orgasm. It is likely that the Rabbit did stimulate her in this way.
We find many couples like to play together with sex toys and incorporate it in their sex lives along with other sexual activities. Using sex toys together can be highly arousing and as many women become fully aroused after their first orgasm, it can be a great lead into intercourse.

As you gain an insight into what the Rabbit does to her- her states of arousal and the pressure and intensity she enjoys on the clitoris, you can try stimulating her orally - cunnilingus - or with your finger, or add another style of vibrator such as the We-Vibe 4 Plus, that vibrates to pleasure both of your during penetrative play.

You may find that now your girlfriend knows how to reach orgasm that her libido may be lifted and she will be open to exploring different types of sexual activities and she may want sex more often! A win win situation!

We recommend using lubricant for sex together and with sex toys for greater pleasure and sensation. And Purr Clitoral Arousal Gel is a popular choice for women who want to achieve orgasm more easily, experience stronger orgasms or become multi-orgasmic, apply a small amount to the clitoris prior to sexual activity and massage in to speed up her state of sexual arousal.