D.VICE Sex Q & A. Is it normal to blow your load from anal stimulation?
Posted by D.VICE Sexpert onQuestion; I’ve always found it hard to orgasm during intercourse but have no problem if I get a blowjob, and I’ve got a new girlfriend and when I didn’t come for ages she put her finger up my ass. It totally made me blow my load, is this normal? She seems totally relaxed by the whole thing.
D.VICE Sexpert Replies;
Fantastic! It’s great that you’ve got a girlfriend who’s so open and able to experiment with different forms of stimulation, enjoy!
What this is really referring to, if you want to actually term it something, is “retarded ejaculation” or RE.
Now this is the third most common male sexual disorder after impotence and premature ejaculation, although numbers wise it doesn’t affect nearly as many men. RE is the difficulty in having an orgasm, particularly during intercourse. Often guys will be able to orgasm while masturbating but not with a partner.
It often has an emotional kind of issue at its core and I think that it’s really important in this kind of instance to communicate about your sexual needs and also your sexual fears, and to experiment with different techniques, including prostate stimulation.
When your girlfirend slipped her finger inside you it is likely that she was stimulating your prostate.
Prostate stimulation or the male G-Spot or P-Spot, is very very pleasurable for men of all sexualities.
Often we have this idea in our head, or guys do, that if you’re heterosexual and you go anywhere near the butt region, it’s just a no go zone. Well just relax, loosen up because you can actually have incredible orgasms from G-Spot stimulation.
Men can actually orgasm just through P-Spot stimulation, without touching their penis at all and often describe the orgasm as feeling as if the back of their head has been blown off.
There’s a whole range of amazing toys out there for guys to actually experiment with P-Spot stimulation. P-Spot exploration can definitely be done by yourself and I would recommend that you experiment by yourself first, so incorporate some P-Spot stimulation into your masturbation play first.
So the male P-Spot is located anally, it’s stimulating the prostate gland through the wall of the rectum. It’s about 5-7cms into the rectum, you need to ensure that you always use lubricant, that you use toys that have a flared base so that part of the toy stays outside of the body and that when you go to stimulate the anal area you allow the muscles to relax for about 10-30 seconds, once you can do that you can actually penetrate with no pain at all and it’s very very pleasurable.
For guys who have actually found that they have amazing orgasms or are able to orgasm if they haven’t been able to, such as in this case, what a fantastic opportunity to actually be able to experiment with different kinds of G-Spot stimulation and the toy that I would really recommend is the Fun Factory Duke or one of the fantastic Nexus prostate toys.
So that’s a whole other area and opportunity for men to explore different kinds of orgasm and if you are open to that and particularly if you have a partner who’s open to experimenting with that as well, there’s just such a huge spectrum that you can explore.
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