D.VICE Sex Q & A. How can I give a blow job without gagging?

I like giving my guy a blow job, but how do I stop gagging?

Question:

My man has an above average sized penis and really likes me giving him a blow job, but I’d like to feel more confident and not worry about gagging. Any tips?

D.VICE Sexpert Answers:

Well the great thing about having a guy with a large sized penis is that you can really affirm that and make him feel absolutely fantastic, and there’s lots of techniques that you can use to give him great head.

One of those is techniques to combine hand with head and the main thing to do is to make sure that you have your hand on the base of his penis, one or two hands, so that you are totally determining how much of his penis you’re taking into your mouth.

In relation to the whole gagging reflex, there is a spot on the back of the throat which is kind of like the gagging spot, and if the tip of penis does touch that spot, it’s really likely that you will gag.

Ways to prevent that are to actually make sure that his penis is at the same angle to your throat, so just kind of experiment with different types of angles as well.

Also make sure that you haven’t just eaten a really big meal, that’s a goodie too, just leave it a little bit because potentially if that spot is touched and you’ve got a really full stomach it could be bad.

With fellatio it is really important to experiment and to learn to be really confident, and I think that often people may have had experiences where they haven’t felt that confident, and they haven’t really known what to do. When their partner has got really aroused and put his hand on the back of their head and  pushed them down.
It’s really important that you feel that you’re in some kind of sense of control, and that you’re feeling really empowered, and practicing on a dildo or a vibrator, it may sound silly but it is such a sensible thing to do.

You can experiment with different kinds of techniques that you can use and also you can really experiment with different types of angles so that you actually know what angle works for you.

And you can direct him, lots of guys just need a little bit of training as to how to be really fantastic fellatio recipients, and you can absolutely become an expert.

There’s some great techniques in the “Expert Guide to Fellatio DVD” which is a very popular DVD that we stock which has some really good techniques about deep throating and other kinds of techniques for preventing gagging, but the main one is actually preventing the penis going back down to that gag spot.

Ensuring that you are using your hand on the base of the penis to determine the amount of his cock that actually goes into your mouth and into your throat and of course that means that you can incorporate different kinds of techniques with your hand and ultimately give him a really fantastic experience.

Using lube can help, the more slippery things are, it’s going to be easier for you and also more pleasurable for him. I recommend Probe as being really great lube for fellatio because it is water based and because it actually amalgamates with your own saliva to keep being activated it is a really, really good lube.

Also its tasteless, so you’re not going to have, it doesn’t feel weird, it just makes things really slippery, I think it’s also really important with fellatio to decide whether you’re going to spit or swallow, and also just kind of have a think about how you feel about having semen in your mouth, and if you have any issues with that.

Potentially you can actually use a flavoured condom. You need to make sure that you take responsibility for that and that you decide what you’re going to do so that you don’t at the end suddenly go “oh my god, that was the most foul tasting thing I’ve ever tasted!” because, let’s face it, sperm do not taste that fabulous, so you just need to decide it beforehand what you’re going to do.