D.VICE Sex Q & A. I've never had an orgasm. Help! What's the deal?

I am a sexually active 22 year old and have been having sex since I was 15. I have never had an orgasm.

I have has short and long term partners who have tried to help but no luck there. I seen a doctor, used lube used a small bullet, tried different lubes and just bought Purr gel. I have had a lot of advice but none worked. Is there something you can tell me that no one else has?

From No Orgasm

D.VICE Sexpert Replies;

Many women are pre-orgasmic, and most can learn how to become orgasmic. Exploring on your own is often the easiest and most successful option. You have some good gear in your tool box already such as lube and Purr clitoral arousal gel, these will  be useful in combination with some other sex toys and techniques. Sometimes focusing on the orgasmic goal can mean you forget to enjoy yourself along the way and/or you are too focused to be able to relax and have an orgasm. Try switching your goal away from climax and focus on pleasurable sensations and experiment.

Achieving orgasm can be easier on your own...to start with. Experiment with;

• Different sexual positions when using sex toys different toys
• Using toys a vibrator on the clitoris only, just in the vagina and then alternating
• Using a vibrator on your nipples and other parts of your body that feel pleasurable

Taking plenty of time to enjoy yourself, relaxing and experiencing all the elements of lovemaking with no specific goals in mind will make sex more pleasurable whether you achieve orgasm each time or not.

85% of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm

Many women require quite specific and intense stimulation of the clitoris in order to orgasm around 85% of women orgasm this way. So if your small vibrator is not powerful enough, you may find it difficult to climax. If this is the case here are some vibrators we recommend to assist with orgasm.

Recommended sex toys for female orgasm

• The We-vibe Touch is a clit vibe with a range of powerful pulsating and vibrating settings. Quiet and rechargeable, the Touch is made from skin friendly silicone
• The Royal Swan, features a powerful multi-speed clitoral stimulator and a rotating shaft for internal stimulation. This rechargeable ‘Rabbit’ style vibrator is quiet and strong.
• For a toy to try during lovemaking with your partner, I recommend the We-Vibe 4 Plus. This sensational couples toy is worn during lovemaking to stimulate the clitoris and g-spot of the woman and the shaft of the penis for a male partner. The We-Vibe 4 Plus can be turned on with a remote control and has a range of vibrating and pulsating modes. It is good for solo exploration as well and if you download the App your partner can turn you on from anywhere in the world!

To learn more about female orgasm, check out the Expert Guide to Female Orgasm DVD. This is real people having real sex under the guidance of a sex instructor. Hot and informative you can get turned on while you learn!

Good luck and enjoy the journey to become orgasmic.